How to Host a Play Party
Ever wondered what it takes to create a play party that’s safe, sexy, and unforgettable? Whether you’re just curious or already experienced in hosting, this virtual introductory training will guide you through the basics of how to cultivate an atmosphere of trust, consent, and connection.
Led by Tristan Taormino & Jess Zakira Wise, founder of fwb, you’ll learn how to set expectations, design your space, navigate consent conversations, manage group energy, handle tricky moments with grace, and keep everyone feeling supported and respected.
This training is perfect for anyone who wants to host or co-host playful, sensual, or erotic gatherings that are rooted in care and consent. Come as you are: curious, experienced, or somewhere in between. You’ll leave inspired, confident, and equipped with tools to help your next event shine.
What You’ll Learn:
Foundations of consent culture & communication
Creating inclusive, accessible, and affirming spaces
Managing logistics, safety, and aftercare
Tips for setting the tone—from invitation to clean-up
Handling common challenges with professionalism and warmth
Who It’s For:
Aspiring hosts, seasoned facilitators, event organizers, sex educators, community leaders, and anyone who wants to better understand how to hold space for erotic play in ways that feel empowering and ethical.
Tristan Taormino is an author, sex educator, speaker, and host of the podcast Sex Out Loud. She is the author of 8 books and editor of 25 anthologies. Her latest is a memoir, A Part of the Heart Can't Be Eaten. She hosted her first sex party in 1999 in New York City, and she is one of the co-founders/co-creators of Dark Odyssey. She has created and produced sex and play events for thousands of people, and she is currently the Director of Education at fwb.
Jess is a community builder, entrepreneur, and sex and relationship researcher. She is the founder of fwb and co-founder of the Bonding Project.
Combined, Tristan and Jess have hosted hundreds of play parties for thousands of people.
This training is required for people who want to host Co-Play events, be a fwb host, or fwb steward.