Relationship Circle-Work
You are warmly invited to an evening of circle work at Casa da Lua. We use circle work to go to the root of relational tension, so you can have more harmonious relationships: with a partner, an ex, your family or friends.
What is circle work?
Circle work is a facilitated practice where a group sits together in a circle and turns its attention to what is present right now: in the body, between people, and in the room as a whole.
It's something quite different from a sharing circle. This isn't a men's or women's circle where we take turns telling our stories. There are very few words. Instead of talking about connection, we practice feeling it, and letting ourselves be met as we are.
We begin by arriving: a few minutes of breath and stillness, so the body can land before anything else happens. From there, I guide the circle's attention to what's alive. A feeling that rises in someone. A tension in the room. A moment of contact between two people. When something wants to move, we slow down and stay with it, together.
The group itself is the medium. When a circle becomes truly present, it creates a field: a shared atmosphere where people feel more clearly, more honestly, and more safely than they could alone. Being met in that field, by a whole circle of people who are simply present with you, is often where the deepest shifts happen.
Nobody fixes, advises or analyses. My role is to hold the space, follow what the field brings, and keep it safe enough for that intelligence to do its work.
Going to the root
Sometimes one person will step into a live piece of work, held by the whole circle. Using somatic tuning, we follow the dynamic underneath back to its root, and meet the part of us that learned to relate that way. Nobody has to step forward, and many people feel their own story moving while they witness someone else's.
Along the way, I'll share a little of the map I work with: Relational Field Dynamics (RFD). Three early wounds, three ways we regulate (Thinking, Doing and Feeling), and the nine dynamics that appear between people under pressure.
You'll walk away with
A clear sense of why the same conflicts keep coming back, and what's really happening underneath
The ability to recognize your pattern while it's happening, so you can choose a different response
Often, the felt release of something old letting go, when its root is met
More calm and presence when someone gets close
A framework and language for what happens between you and the people you love, to take home with you
Based on my experience, when one person in a relationship changes how they meet their own pattern, the whole relationship begins to shift. You don't need your partner in the room for this to work.
This is a place to explore and grow with safety and freedom to be imperfectly perfect.
Come as you are. No partner needed.
Doors open at 18:00. Please arrive between 18:00 and 18:15. The doors close at 18:30, and we begin.
About the facilitator
Viljar Rystad
As an entrepreneur, coach, community builder and facilitator, Viljar has spent the last 10+ years designing and facilitating transformational experiences with teams, companies, coaching clients, and himself.
He's trained in Conscious Leadership with Jim Dethmer, and has facilitated more than 650 workshops and trained over 600 facilitators, mostly with his Norwegian innovation studio Løpe. He is also the founder of the AfrikaBurn camp and community Vagabonds.
Over the last years he has turned that work toward the space between people in close relationships, and developed Relational Field Dynamics along the way. He sees himself as its first student more than its inventor. He is walking this path with you.
About Agave
Agave is the home of Viljar's work with relationships. It started in Lisbon in the autumn of 2025 as a series of evenings on conscious relating, and has grown into Relational Field Dynamics: a way of seeing the recurring patterns that arise between people when old pain gets activated. Alongside the circles, there is a free relationship pattern quiz, and he offers 1:1 Pattern Readings.
More about Agave and RFD here: https://agave.community/
What people have said
Lance Diaresco, Executive Coach & Advisor | Former Disney CMO & Google Director | Mindvalley Speaker
"I like the safe space for the insightful exercises and open discussion. Viljar merges wisdom from different modalities."
Jonny Stuart, 2x Founder | Investor + Speaker | Community Builder | MVP Specialist
"I wasn't sure what to expect or how we'd respond as a couple, but the experience left us feeling transformed, more empowered, more self-aware, and more connected to each other."
FAQ
Do I need to be in a relationship to join?
Nope. This circle is for anyone exploring how they relate: in love, in friendship, in family, or even at work.
Is this only for people who are struggling in relationships?
Definitely not. Some come to heal, others to deepen, and many just want to relate with more presence. No "problem" required.
Will I have to talk a lot? 🙈
Very little. Most of the evening happens in sensing and feeling rather than talking. When words come, they're about what's alive right now, not long stories. Everything is optional, including speaking, and what happens in the circle stays in the circle.
What is somatic tuning?
A gentle form of kinesiology I use to listen to the body's response, so we can find the dynamic underneath without having to think our way there.
Is this therapy?
No. It's a circle with a framework and live work. RFD doesn't cover abuse, addiction, clinical conditions or acute trauma. If you're in the middle of one of those, please reach out to a professional first.
More about Agave here: https://agave.community/