Living Room Lectures presents The Pleasure of Pain: Reclaiming S&M
Explore why ancient cultures used pain rituals for transcendence, and why modern, high-functioning adults often find their deepest peace on the other side of a sting.
In our modern world, we are taught that pain is a "glitch" — something to be numbed, avoided, or fixed. But for many, structured, consensual pain is actually a profound portal to relief.
In this lecture, Priestess Francesca takes S&M out of the dungeon and places it into its historical context. Through the lens of pain rituals, we'll examine what consensual pain can teach us about communication, trust, intimacy, ethics, and identity.
A limited number of free and discounted tickets are available for those who need them and/or would like to volunteer. Please contact us at [email protected] to inquire.
Program
7:30pm - Doors Open
7:30-8:00pm - Arrival and mingling
8:00-8:30pm - Introduction and Lecture
8:30-9:00pm - Discussion
9:00-10:00pm - Mingling
Popcorn, candy, wine, and seltzer will be available.
Community Note
This event is intended for those who can remain grounded in the presence of explicit content and engage thoughtfully and respectfully with themes of adult sexual autonomy. The evening will focus on the intellectual exploration of pain rituals through a lecture and guided discussion. As part of the program, Priestess Francesca will lead a live demonstration of light spanking.
For those interested in exploring the deeper or more taboo dimensions of this work, Priestess Francesca’s digital masterclass, Trauma, Kink & Somatic Healing, offers a more appropriate container. She will also be available following the lecture to answer questions and continue the conversation.
Speaker
Priestess Francesca is a Brooklyn-born Sexologist, Professional Dominatrix, and host of the Gutter Wisdom podcast, dedicated to deconstructing the psychology of kink and power for a modern audience.
Facilitator
Adam Nye is an event producer with a background in informal learning and community engagement across museums, schools, and cultural spaces.
Living Room Lectures builds community through learning and conversation. Each gathering features one guest giving a short lecture on a queer topic.
Refund Policy
Our events are community-centered and interactive, rely on people showing up, and operate on a tight budget. While we understand that plans can change, we are unable to offer refunds. If you can no longer attend, please contact us and we will do our best to help resell your ticket. Thank you for your understanding and support.
Media Release Clause
By attending this event, you consent to being photographed, filmed, or recorded and grant permission for your likeness to be used in promotional materials and on public platforms.