The Kindling: A Sauna Dating Experience for Queer Men
At a time when connection is being outsourced to apps that lead to dead ends and happy hours that ask you to perform, we're bringing dating back to it’s simplest form: an analog experience designed to build connection through shared moments before even going on a date with them.
The night begins with breathwork in the sauna to help ground you and support heart-opening connection before moving into a night of opportunities to meet new matches.
What to expect
💨 Guided breathwork to feel grounded in your body
🔥 Hot sauna and aromatherapy to release tension
🧊 Ice bath speed dating to come into presence and meet others
💭 Guided practices to meet others with intention
🧘♂️ A closing meditation to integrate the night
📵 No phones for true attention
⚡️ Non-alc drinks with a boost of energy from Disco Fizz
Your hosts for the evening
Brian Lamy is a breathwork facilitator, therapist, and sober gay man on a mission to deepen the way queer men connect and belong to themselves and each other.
Othership Guides will help guide breathwork, ice baths, and connection moments throughout the night.
This is for you if…
You’re single and curious about a new way to meet people
You’re tired of apps and small talk that goes nowhere
You want to meet other queer men IRL
You’re open to learning about yourself and others
You’re a little nervous, but you’re coming anyway
The fine details
🩳 All you need is a bathing suit and an open mind. We’ll set up the rest of the night for you.
🌈 This night is open to all gay, bi, trans, and queer men and non-binary individuals.
👉 This event is alcohol- and substance-free. Please arrive sober and refrain from any alcohol or substances prior to this event. Anyone who is under the influence will be asked to leave.
❤️ This space is built on inclusion and respect for every person. Anyone who doesn’t demonstrate those values may be asked to leave.
🙋 See what to expect and FAQs for Othership here.