toward.love: a dating event for ENM, seeking a person to build a life with
Created by Justina Lydia and hosted by Lisa LaCroix:
Toward Love is a series of intimate, body-based dating experiences for people who want to meet with more presence, honesty, and relational intelligence.
This edition is for people practicing ethical non-monogamy who are here to find a life partner.
You do not need to be single to attend. You do need to have real space in your life, heart, schedule, and relational agreements for a committed partnership to grow.
This room is for people who want freedom and depth, autonomy and devotion, desire and responsibility, truth and tenderness.
We will guide you through a slow, carefully held sequence of grounding, breath, eye contact, authentic relating, polarity-based connection, and consent-based touch. The purpose is to help you feel yourself clearly enough to notice who you may want to deepen with.
We begin by helping you land in your own body. From there, you will meet others through guided partner exercises that reveal what a profile cannot: how you feel in someone’s presence, how they hold complexity, how they relate to desire, how they speak about commitment, and whether your bodies, values, and visions have real resonance.
Touch is part of the language of this evening. It will be non-erotic, guided, and consent-based. You will be invited to notice your yes, no, and maybe in real time, and to communicate them clearly. In an ENM context, this matters even more. Contact with consent, pacing, and honesty reveals a lot.
The pacing is intentional. You will have time to warm up, listen inward, and choose your level of participation. Every exercise includes room for nervous system honesty. You can engage fully, choose a softer version, or step back when you need to.
At the end of the experience, you will have a chance to indicate who you would like to connect with again. When there is mutual interest, we will help you connect. You will also have a way to stay connected with participants across Toward Love events, including people from other editions.
Come if you are looking for a life partner, nesting partner, beloved, anchor partner, or another form of committed partnership inside an ENM context. Come if you want connection with honesty, consent, emotional maturity, and enough structure for something real to grow.
Shape of the night (3 hours):
6:30pm: doors open. Come in, settle, and start meeting people with the help of our connection cards.
7:00pm: doors close. This is a fully closed container. We won't let anyone in after 7pm, so the field stays protected for everyone who chose to be here on time.
7pm - 9pm: the structured experience.
9pm - 9:30pm: structure ends and you're free to linger and keep connecting.
9:30pm: we'll gently send everyone home.
To keep the room balanced, we’re selling an equal number of women’s and men’s tickets. If you’re waiting for your registration to be approved, one way to help us confirm you faster is to purchase a double ticket and invite someone of the opposite gender.
By registering you agree to our Code of Conduct → toward.love/code-of-conduct
This event is hosted at the Frontier Tower:
We are transforming a 16-floor tower in San Francisco into a self-governed vertical village—a hub for frontier technologies and creative arts. Tier-one labs presenting AI, Ethereum, biotech, neuroscience, longevity, robotics, makerspace, human flourishing, and arts & music. These floors will house innovators and creators pushing the boundaries of human potential in a post-AI-singularity world.
Apply here for founding citizenship: https://frontiertower.io/apply
Why should I become a citizen?
Be part of creating the first self-governed vertical village
Connect with the most creative people in the city
Get access to all floors, free event space & movement floor
Website: https://frontiertower.io/
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