(SATURDAY) Stop the Loop: A Live Conflict Resolution Intensive for Couples
You already know the fight is not really about what it is about.
That awareness puts you ahead of most people. You see beneath the surface. You know something deeper is driving the conflict. And you are tired of knowing that without being able to do anything about it in the moment that matters most.
The people who actually change their relationships are not the ones with the least conflict. They are the ones who stop waiting for self-awareness to do the work that only skill does.
Stop the Loop is a 3.5-hour live virtual intensive built around one skill: what it actually takes to make someone feel understood in the middle of a fight. Not heard. Understood. There is a difference. And it is the difference.
You will practice in real time, in practice lab sessions, using the Empathy First framework from Why We Fight, my book publishing July 21st. I will be in the room watching where you get stuck and telling you exactly what is happening.
This works for every relationship where conflict keeps looping. Romantic partners, siblings, parents, adult children, close friends, or business partners. Attend with someone in your life or register solo and I will pair you with another participant if you wish.
What we work on:
Why most conflicts go sideways in the first two minutes
The difference between listening and making someone feel understood
How to mirror accurately without defending, fixing, or explaining
How childhood roles shape the way we give and receive empathy, and why the people we love may need it delivered differently than what felt like love growing up
Live troubleshooting: real conflicts, worked through in real time with me
This session covers one skill. Done right.
The rest of the framework lives in my book.
Tickets:
Standard: $197 · digital workbook · signed copy of Why We Fight mailed at launch
VIP: $347 · digital workbook · signed copy of Why We Fight mailed at launch · 30-minute private Zoom with Kim after the session
Hosted by Kim Polinder: relationship expert, conflict specialist, and author of Why We Fight (HarperOne, July 2026). As seen on The Tamron Hall Show. 600K+ followers @kp_counseling.