The Impact of ADHD on Relationships: Why Trying Harder Isn’t Working and What Actually Helps
When ADHD is part of your relationship, it can feel like you’re stuck in a frustrating loop, no matter how hard you both try.
One partner feels overwhelmed and burdened by everything they carry. The other feels like they are always falling short. Efforts to shift these patterns work temporarily, which only leads to more frustration and disappointment over time.
You’re both left wondering, “How can we change this before it drives us even further apart?”
This workshop offers clear, honest insight into both the visible and less obvious ways ADHD impacts relationships.
You’ll begin to understand what’s actually happening and identify steps that feel respectful to both partners and build hope for the future.
What You'll Learn from This Workshop:
How ADHD presents in adults and why it gets misunderstood
Why common attempts to “fix things” or “try harder” don’t work
The visible and hidden ways ADHD impacts relationships over time
The role each partner can play in creating meaningful change
What steps will help your relationship feel close and connected again
Meet Your Facilitator: Amy Shahda, MA
SHE/HER
With both professional training and lived experience, Amy understands how confusing and painful ADHD dynamics can feel inside a relationship, especially when you’re both trying, and nothing seems to change.
For most couples, the real issue is not a lack of effort but a lack of understanding.
When couples begin to understand how ADHD is shaping their relationship, it often becomes a powerful turning point – leading to better communication, less blame, and a renewed willingness to work as a team.
This workshop is designed to help you and your partner experience that same shift.
Our team at Heights Couples Therapy has helped hundreds of couples build secure, satisfying relationships despite differences. We know what it takes for you and your partner to get there, too.
If you're in a relationship where one or both partners has ADHD (diagnosed or suspected), you feel stuck in cycles of frustration, imbalance, or misunderstanding, are tired of having the same arguments over and over, or want to work as a team in understanding and managing ADHD in their relationship, this workshop is for you.
FAQ
I can’t make it live. Will there be a replay?
Yes. You’ll receive the replay after the workshop and have access for two weeks after the workshop.
Do I have to attend with my partner?
It’s ideal if you and your partner can attend together. However, if only one of you can join, you’ll still be able to start to apply what you learned to shift the dynamic. You can also watch the replay together as a couple.
Is this therapy?
No. This is an educational workshop. Our facilitator will offer information, frameworks, and reflection prompts, but this does not constitute therapy, diagnosis, or individualized treatment. If you determine you’d benefit from therapy, you’ll receive guidance on how to seek out a therapist who matches your needs.
How will this actually help our relationship?
You’ve probably been stuck in this pattern for a long time (even before an official diagnosis) and have tried everything possible to shift your pattern. This workshop offers you the missing piece that most couples skip: grounded, relevant information about ADHD’s impact on romantic relationships – so you can stop focusing on daily frustrations and understand what’s going on below the surface.
Will there be a Q&A?
Yes, as time allows. There will be space for a brief Q&A where participants can submit questions. Facilitators cannot provide personalized therapy in this setting, but can offer general guidance and further resources to explore.
About Heights Couples Therapy
This workshop is hosted by Heights Couples Therapy, a specialty group practice in Houston, Texas, supporting individuals, partners, and families navigating intense lives as they build and sustain relationships capable of weathering life’s storms.
We proudly maintain an anti-racist practice that is LGBTQ+-affirming, poly-friendly, and kink-knowledgeable. We believe everyone deserves loving, fulfilling relationships in any configuration or expression that honors their authentic selves.
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