Regulatating Internal Speed in Intimate Relationships
Intimacy asks us to meet another person from a regulated, embodied place - a place where our Eros (our life-force, vitality, and capacity for connection) can move freely rather than reactively.
But many of us carry experiences - trauma, attachment wounds, negative relational patterns - that distort or restrict our natural internal pacing. Instead of moving from a grounded desire or curiosity, we may find ourselves:
Speeding Up (anxiety, over-persuing, over-functioning)
Slowing down or shutting down (freeze, collapse, withdrawal)
Or oscillating between the two
These states aren't personal failures. They're protective patterns the nervous system learned in relationship. When internal speed is dysregulated, self-regulation becasue harder - and co-regulation with a partner becomes almost impossible. This can lead to addictive or compulsive patterns, anxious or avoidant, over-attunement, emotional isolation, or feeling "too moch" or "not enough."
This group is designed to help you come home to your own neurophysiology, regain agency over your internal pacing, and reconnect with your Eros in a regulated, digestible way.
What We'll Explore Together
Across two experiential sessions, we will gently work with:
Mapping your internal speed
Recognising your own "fast" and "slow" states, how they show up in intimacy, and what triggers shifts.
Eros as regulated life-force
Distinguishing embodied aliveness from trauma-driven activation.
Somatic pathways for slowing down without collapsing & speeding up without overwhelm
Developing capacity in both sympathetic (mobilised) and parasympathetic (settling) states.
How internal regulation shapes co-regulation
Understanding why connection feels easy at some times and impossible at others
Creating space between impulse and action
Building more choicefulness, curiosity, and compassion in relational moments
Reclaiming agency, wholeness, and self-validation
Coming into intimacy from a place of grounded self-contact - whether you're partnered or single.
Who This Group Is For
This group is for anyone - partnered or not - who feels curious, called, adventurous or desparate ;)