How to Ask for What You Need Without Sounding Demanding or "Too Much"
If asking for what you need in non-monogamy, polyamory, or any kind of open relationship makes you anxious, guilty, apologetic, frozen, or like a burden — this workshop is for you.
Whether you’re practicing solo poly, hierarchical polyamory, relationship anarchy, monogamish, or you’re newly navigating consensual non-monogamy (CNM)… the truth is: asking for what you need gets harder, not easier, when multiple partners, nervous systems, and expectations are involved.
This Workshop Is For You If…
You’ve ever found yourself:
Swallowing your needs to “keep the peace” in your CNM constellation
Trying to be the “easygoing,” low-maintenance poly partner even when your body wants more
Feeling resentful because you didn’t speak up about an agreement, boundary, or limit soon enough
Panicking about coming across as demanding, needy, rigid, or controlling — especially when a partner’s with someone new
Holding in your concerns until they leak out sideways during compersion strain, NRE imbalance, or schedule overwhelm
Hoping your partner will magically read your mind across multiple relationships
Struggling to express needs without blowing up, shutting down, fawning, or comparing yourself to metamours
Feeling afraid to take up space because you don’t want to be “the difficult poly person”
This workshop gives you the grounded, somatic, clear way to communicate your needs without feeling like you’re ruining the vibe, disrupting NRE, or asking for too much.
What You’ll Learn Inside
In this 2-hour live workshop, you’ll learn a simple, powerful, nervous-system-informed method to:
1. Identify your real needs beneath common “complaints”
so you stop fighting about surface issues and finally get to the root.
2. Transform complaints into clear, grounded, doable requests
without sounding demanding, controlling, or “too much.”
3. Create agreements that feel liberating — not restrictive
especially when multiple partners and nervous systems are involved.
4. Regulate the discomfort that shows up when asking feels scary
so you can speak from your body rather than from anxiety, shutdown, or fawning.
5. Strengthen the 3 core skills of Differentiation
the #1 relationship tool every non-monogamous person needs
6. Practice the communication scripts live
in small, confidential breakout groups with others who “get it.”
You’ll leave with a new sense of groundedness, clarity, and relational self-trust.
No more contorting yourself to seem “low-maintenance.”
No more hoping for telepathy.
No more “I should have said something earlier.”
Just clarity, compassion, and grounded self-expression.
What’s Inside the 2-Hour Experience
Teaching on the 5 patterns that sabotage communication in non-monogamy
A guided somatic practice to help you access your inner yes/no and deepen self-attunement.
The Complaint → Need → Boundary → Request → Agreement method with CNM-specific examples.
2 rounds of small-group practice pods for real-time integration.
Tools for handling your partner’s reaction without losing your center.
Integration & connection breakouts so you leave feeling connected rather than alone.
Facilitated by Aria Diana (she/her)
Somatic relationship coach for the non-monogamous.
13+ years of personal non-monogamy practice
Coach to hundreds of individuals, couples & polycules around the world.
Creator of the T.R.U.E. Method™ for somatic emotional regulation.
Writer of the Substack newsletter Navigating Non-Monogamy with Aria Diana, read in 45 U.S. states and 57 countries, featured on Substack's Bestseller List and Rising in Culture Top 100.
You deserve relationships where your needs are not an inconvenience.
Where you don’t shrink to keep the peace.
Where clarity is care, for you and for everyone you love.
If you’re ready to speak from truth instead of fear…
to build agreements that feel good to everyone involved…
to communicate in a way that brings you closer rather than apart…
Join us.
📚 Free Bonus Resource
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