Books & Booze: Trick Mirror [ENG]

​A month of looking at self-delusion, performance, optimization, and the selves we build online.

​How well do we really know ourselves? We curate who we are for our feeds, our careers, and our relationships, and we tell ourselves stories about why we want what we want. After a while, the line between who we are and who we perform can blur until we can't find it. Trick Mirror asks what happens when the self we show the world becomes the only self we recognize.

​For this edition of Books & Booze, we will explore Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion by Jia Tolentino, one of the defining essay collections of its generation. Across nine essays, Tolentino turns her sharp, funny, unsparing eye on the culture that shaped her and many of us. She covers the internet's pull toward constant self-display, the wellness industry's promise that we can optimize our way to happiness, the scams that define an era, the myth of the "difficult woman," and the wedding industrial complex. She doesn't let herself off the hook either, which is why the book feels less like a lecture and more like a confession we all share.

​Join us for an evening of thoughtful conversation as we unpack self-presentation, ambition, feminism, consumerism, and the quiet compromises we make to stay competitive. Together, we'll explore why we keep optimizing ourselves when it doesn't make us happier, how the internet changed what it means to have a self, whether "empowerment" has turned into a marketing strategy, and how honest any of us can be about what we're complicit in.

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​Who we are

​Troisième Cercle is a private members club for professional women who want deeper conversations, real connections, and thoughtfully curated experiences across the city.

​What to Expect:
A warm, no-pressure discussion of Trick Mirror.

• ​Drinks designed around the book’s themes (cocktails + mocktails)

• ​Time to connect, reflect, and raise a glass with great people

​No need to finish the book to attend come curious, come casual, and come ready to connect.

​Agenda:

​6:00PM – Arrival, drinks, welcome
6:15PM – Discussion begins
7:15PM – Wrap-up: open conversation, drinks, networking, and community

​No Shows / Cancellations:

​If you’re unable to attend, please let us know at least 48 hours in advance by emailing info@troisiemecercle.com. Cancellations before this deadline are eligible for a refund.

​Looking forward to raising a glass with you all!